Show Notes

So often, couples come into my office wanting to change their partner. They highlight how their partner is doing ‘this’ and not enough of ‘that,’ as if they’re returning a defective item and want a refund. Yet, so rarely does change in our partners happen when they’re forced or nagged to do it - at the very least, they’ll only feel forced, controlled, and disrespected. And in trying to change our partners, we forget one fundamental thing: that change must start from within.

 

In this episode, I discuss the essential things you need to practice to inspire change in your relationship. I explain why you need to think about what you would consider red flags before you commit to a relationship and why you need to avoid focusing on your partner’s negative characteristics. I share some of my experiences with my wife where we were inspired to change as individuals and reveal the role of respect in bringing about change in relationships. I also explore how appreciation can foster growth and encourage couples to reach their fullest potential.

 

“That’s where change can happen. A safe, vulnerable environment where couples can cultivate themselves in their relationship.” - Pripo Teplitsky

 

This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It: 

  • Relationship red flags and non-negotiables
  • Influencing the change you want to see in your partner
  • The wisdom of older people on committing to relationships and marriage
  • Avoiding looking at our partners as DIY improvement projects
  • The differences between complaining and criticism and how they spill over into other areas of the relationship
  • Fostering positive growth in our partner through first accepting them for who they are
  • How criticism and blame takes a partner further from growth and change
  • The importance of introspecting over criticizing and blaming a partner
  • Why it’s necessary to know yourself and your needs before committing to a relationship
  • How focusing on fundamental differences and challenges discourages a relationship’s connection
  • The need to verbalize what a person wants in a relationship and focus on transformation and change
  • Why change needs to come from ourselves first before they occur in our partners

 

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Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

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