Derek Rutter is a therapist in private practice in Asheville, North Carolina. His approach specializes in using somatic parts work in the treatment of trauma, addiction, and attachment wounds. In addition to working as a therapist, Derek is a father, partner, artist and athlete. He loves the big questions and cherishes the small things. Some people think he's funny.

In this episode, Derek and I discuss how emotional immaturity isn't about age—it's about the inability or unwillingness to handle emotions in a healthy, adult way. In relationships, it shows up as patterns that consistently hurt connection, trust, and growth. Many emotionally immature people were raised in homes where emotions were punished, ignored, or explosive—so it feels normal to them. Emotionally immature people often love intensely—but conditionally. The relationship feels passionate and deep… until there's conflict or discomfort. Emotional maturity means two people can feel big things—anger, fear, sadness—and still treat each other with respect and care while working through it.

Derek Rutter contact info:

Website: onebreathcounseling.net

Email: onebreathcounseling@gmail.com

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Theme music "These Streets" provided by Adi the Monk

Sound Production by Matt Carlson

Show Notes

Derek Rutter is a therapist in private practice in Asheville, North Carolina. His approach specializes in using somatic parts work in the treatment of trauma, addiction, and attachment wounds. In addition to working as a therapist, Derek is a father, partner, artist and athlete. He loves the big questions and cherishes the small things. Some people think he's funny.

In this episode, Derek and I discuss how emotional immaturity isn't about age—it's about the inability or unwillingness to handle emotions in a healthy, adult way. In relationships, it shows up as patterns that consistently hurt connection, trust, and growth. Many emotionally immature people were raised in homes where emotions were punished, ignored, or explosive—so it feels normal to them. Emotionally immature people often love intensely—but conditionally. The relationship feels passionate and deep… until there's conflict or discomfort. Emotional maturity means two people can feel big things—anger, fear, sadness—and still treat each other with respect and care while working through it.

Derek Rutter contact info:

Website: onebreathcounseling.net

Email: onebreathcounseling@gmail.com

Let's Talk About It!

Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.

You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs.

Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.

And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!

Theme music "These Streets" provided by Adi the Monk

Sound Production by Matt Carlson

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